The physical distance was the most influential turning point. I guess that makes sense because a relationship is a lot easier to maintain when people are close in proximity. I mean, when an adult child moves away and starts a family somewhere, the new family will not have a close bond to the old family like one would that live in the same city.
The TV show "Everybody Loves Raymond" is about a family that lives right across the street from the parents of one of the adults. The humor in the show comes from the lack of privacy, the constant fighting and the fact that they are just too close in proximity. So, I would say it is great to live in the same area for the grandkids and the grandparents, but not on the same street!
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Hi, Aleks.
I also watched Everybody Loves Raymond before, so I understand what you were writing about. Unlike Raymond’s family, my dad didn’t live just cross street with my grandmother; he moved out when he married my mom. His relationship with his mom was not as close as the time when he was still little, and he had to worry about many things after he got married. Such things included my tuition, my mom, his jobs, etc. I think this is the reason why their parent-child relational closeness decreased. However, he didn’t live too far away from my grandmother, so their relationship is better than his siblings who live very far away from my grandmother. Therefore, I agree with you that it is good to live in the same area.
- Ruby
When you start to feel the physical distance, many would want to implement more communication within the relationship. When I was younger, just when I graduated, my close friends were moving to different places for college. I was so used to having them nearby, it was very difficult when they all moved away. For some reason, instead of trying to communicate more, I slowly let go, which is one of my regrets. From time to time, I will try to call and play catch-up, and send random messages to say "hi" and to let them know that I haven't forgotten them. Perhaps, it's my issue that I need to overcome. Overall, I think this turning point should really be acted upon, especially when it deals with people you most care about.
I like how you brought up the different turning points in this chapter. I agree that it was interesting to find that certain points affect the relationship with the mother and father. There is truth that relationship maintenance is a lot easier when people are close in proximity. Relationships change when distance is between them. Physical distance does a lot in relationships, whether they grow stronger or eventually fade away. Long distance romantic relationships are the absolute hardest and there is no wonder that many eventually end because of it.
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