Chapter 10 started off with the concepts of Centripetal versus Centrifugal forces of keeping relationships together. I understand both views but I have to say I can better agree with the Centrifugal force. I think a relationship is bound to break without effort to keep it together. Many relationships seem easy at first. They seem smooth and self-running but we are still putting effort in. We put effort in when we cancel, lets say, "Smallville night" for a date. This might seem like no effort because we are excited to see this person, but I say that even when we are glad to put in effort, it is still effort.
And then, later into the relationship, it is easier to see where effort comes in, because we sometimes have to push ourselves to do it. Or if not push ourselves, (because that sounds like we do not want to do it), we find compromise to put in effort. ("I will miss this week's girls night, but next week that night is mine".)
Anyway, my point is that I think any relationship is not bound to stick together on its own. It needs work from both parties, and equity theory talks about that with respect to each person needing to put equal amount of effort for both people to be happy with the equality.
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I definitely agree with your post. I think all relationships take effort to stay together. Like you said, in the beginning stages of a relationship you might not notice the effort because it comes easy becuase of the excitement of the relationship. But as time goes on the efforts make become a little more apparent. I think it helps to stay positive about those efforts all the time in order to make mainating the relationship a little easier. Compromise works well too, as long as you are happy with it and not bitter about it in the end. I think it's compromise if both people are putting in an equal amount of effort.
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