The book talks about hooking up and how it is so much more prevalent for people to hook up without commitment or a relationship than ever before. Are we more promiscuous than before? Are we more experimental? Do we not value relationships as much as we used to?
I know for me, I am in this boat right now, because I am seeing someone who I have no interest in dating. I feel like I am young and I am just having fun. And if a serious relationship came along, I would love to take it, but this is just taking up my time while I am waiting for the real thing to come. I don't know how this helps explain this hook up craze, but I think a lot of people hook up for the same reason I just said.
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Hi, Aleks.
I agree with you that hooking up is a broad term, and some people still use it as getting together. Like me, I have always thought that hooking up is getting together until I read the book. Maybe it is just because my English is not as good as native speakers, and my country doesn’t seem to have a term for getting together in a more sexual way.
I think hooking up is more prevalent among college students because college students are usually young and are trying new things. I don’t see hooking up as a negative thing, as long as people are responsible for others and for themselves. If two people have mutual agreements, I don’t see problems with hooking up. However, I like more stable, deep, and romantic relationship, so I prefer going through relationships slowly without rushing through everything. I like to be more committed into a serious relationship. However, it is just my preference. I think it is good that you are having fun in your relationship while waiting for the real love to come.
- Ruby
To answer your questions: "Are we more promiscuous than before? Are we more experimental? Do we not value relationships as much as we used to?"
Yes I do believe we are more promiscuous and experimental today as oppose to how we used to be. Our impression on the relationship scenario is that we can always have a relationship, so why rush into it. Most of us it seems are more interested in just casual fun as oppose to a relationship. I know I like a relationship, but I don't want one right now. I also believe we see this trend now, as we are college students so we pass it off as part of the college experience-- casual relations, experimental behavior etc.
I think hooking up with other people before a serious relationship is good. You will get to know what you actually want from a serious relationship. Before my boyfriend, I went on several dates but never had a serious relationship before. I guess I have learned from the dates and know more what I really want in a man and in a relationship. Beside it is all about having fun before you settle down, right?
Anyway, good luck with your “hooking up.”
I agree with the book that hooking up is a very broad term. Its always nice when people ask about you and another individual and you don’t really want to disclose the information you can just say oh we hooked up. As you said it can mean anything from kissing to having sex. I believe that hooking up is something that many people do when they are not in a relationship or want a relationship. Every human has their wants and needs and sometimes it just easier to hook up with someone. I think that as long as the two people who are hooking up both understand that there is nothing else in the relationship then that’s okay. Its important to establish what the relationship is so that way no one ends up getting hurt.
Hi, Aleks.
When I was a senior in high school I associated hooking up along with the social part of college life, which I got from the movies like American Pie that only focus on that the fun part of attending college. Personally, After attending college I feel that hooking up with random people is something that the younger crowd do because they are trying to fulfill or create the college career that are produced by college based movies like American Pie
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